Healing Your Inner Child

Recently I've noticed a lot of bloggers writing these awesome letters to their younger selves. No this is not one of those. I already did something similar in my getting older post. The idea made me think about something called inner child work. I tried this a year ago.

Our younger selves are still a part of us. We might have grown up and gotten older, but that does not mean that our other versions are gone. The experiences we go through in our lives and what our younger selves felt became part of us. It helps us to learn and be better next time. But sometimes we get stuck. Our younger selves maybe had some sad moments and as we got older we held on to tight and never moved on.

Inner child work is basically you going back and comforting that child(you) if they're sad and letting them know everything will be okay. A clue to know if your inner child is unhappy, is if current you are dealing with some emotional issues. You can do this as a meditation.

You find a quiet place. Make sure there's no distractions. Focus on your breathing. Imagine a beautiful garden or any peaceful place. In this place there's a child. That child is you. Introduce yourself to the child. Let them know who you are. Remember that's a younger you that still exists. So the child or you will talk back.

Yes you're going to talk to yourself. It's not crazy. It's actually insightful. Especially if you have no idea who you really are. Some people hide who they are. Even from themselves. I had no idea I had abandonment issues. Not a clue!

I thought not having my parents around was normal. Getting raised by grandparents that had to raise my cousins at the same time and me fading into the background was normal. I was picked on everyday by my cousins because I looked and acted weird.

Add the fact that I'm an introvert and that makes a really crappy childhood. It affected every relationship I ever had and every decision I made in my life and I had no idea, until I actually started to look at why I was so unhappy.

I thought I grew up and that's my past, but it affected every aspect of my life. Everything! I found it hard to trust people, I was scared of everything and I felt lonely most of my life. The things that happen in our childhood lays the foundation for the rest of our lives.

Parents need to be aware of this. Don't think your child will just get over something. It stays with them. It stayed with all of us. Make sure your child knows you love them and that you are there for them. In words and actions. Unfortunately you can't protect your child from everything. They have their own path.

No matter how hard this life is, if you know there's someone that has your back then you can face anything. If someone had my back when I was a child, then maybe I would have been a normal functional adult. Instead I have to now patch myself up. Piece by piece...

I'm not upset with my parents. That's water under the bridge. I understand why they couldn't be a big part of my life. My mom and I have grown closer now that I've made more time for my family. My dad is somewhere on the planet. He reached out a few years ago but I felt no connection to him. So he's not in my life. It was my choice. You can't miss something you never had. Anyway...

Mini Renza
Mini Renza
So there I was having a conversation with mini Renza and I told her about everything we've accomplished. That she should be strong and everything is not as bad as it seems. We might be misfits but we will eventually learn to embrace that part of ourselves and it's ok to be different. People will leave us and that will become the theme of our life, but that's their loss and it's nothing we did.

I told her she will always have me. I will never abandon her. We cried together. We laughed. We hugged. She felt much better and I watched as her sadness faded. That rippled into older me feeling better too about my past.

I wasn't completely healed at that time. This is not an easy fix. But I felt lighter. I felt hopeful. Like a floodgate opened. Something shifted and I knew I had more control over my reality than I thought.

You can go back as many times as you want. Hopefully your current version is wiser and will impart some valuable knowledge. While busy working on this post, I thought why not try to go back.

I stopped doing this exercise, because I thought there was no need to. Luckily I was reminded of it while reading the blogger's letters to their younger selves. I then went back and had a conversation with my inner child again. She had our two dogs with her and a smaller version of my best friend. She was happy.

She was concerned about loosing everything. I didn't push the subject because I saw she wanted to retrieve and put up a wall. It's normal to feel that way when you're happy after being sad for a long time. I just reminded her to enjoy this moment and not worry about the future.

She then showed me how much my puppy actually loves me and that I was not just a chew toy. That conversation improved my relationship with my new dog as well. I was surprised that she could actually see that, when I couldn't. She asked why I don't come around any more. I told her I'm always here. We are one. She understood.

I find that when doing these exercises you have to be clear. It's like there's a disconnect between current you and your inner child. You should not assume they know everything about what's going on in your life and also vice versa. Your mind might be hiding things from you.

 Inner child healing teddy
All patched up and ready for anything!
Remember to be kind and empathetic to your inner child. Especially if they are afraid and don't trust easily. There's a lot of guided meditations on inner child work on YouTube I've seen. Like with all self-help techniques, I advise you to do your own research on the subject.

Some people can only face themselves when they're ready. Your inner child represents your past. It's a way to tap into the subconscious. A way to find self acceptance for who you are. A lot of people find it hard to love and accept themselves.

You're going to have you for the rest of your life. It's important to love yourself and find your happiness. Healing your inner child will take you one step closer to finding peace.

This is my own experience. It is just one of many things I've tried to help heal myself emotionally. I was ready to face my past and deal with it.  I knew that was the only way I'll get closer to being happy.

Until next time
Goodbye :-)

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Puppy Biting and Destroying Things

Ruff-ruff! Hello humans! I'm back! I was forced to write something for the blog because Renza human had to come up with new topics. Btw this is not a blog post on how to overcome puppy biting and destroying things. I like destruction and chaos so why fix it.

Renza human is trying to teach me not to bite people by making some weird crying noises and giving me something else to chew on besides human flesh. Is it working you ask? Well I prefer the flesh sooooo...

I also love destroying everything in my path. Who told them to leave their things where I can reach? Buffy and I destroyed his bed. The insides were all over the place. Renza human had to sew it together again. It took her half a day.

Now we can play with his bed again. I get on it and Buffy pulls me around. I know you're wondering what about my bed. Well it's for sleeping, not playing. Silly, silly humans.

Buffy and Fluffy playing

I have puppy teeth and I need to bite things, so don't blame me. I love collecting rocks to chew on, but I need to hide them away in my bed underneath my blanket otherwise Renza human confiscates my rock collection.

I destroy their newspapers and make sure the roll of toilet paper that's always close by for some reason, gets ripped apart. It looks like snow. All white and snow like. Really pretttyyy.

Unfortunately my human Renza cleans it up after mumbling some words I don't understand. Then she says Buffy must play with me to keep me busy. Almost like he has a choice. I think he likes it when I pull his hair. Don't worry he won't miss a few.

Buffy and Fluffy detroying things

I like chewing their shoes. I take Renza human's slippers off her feet then run away and hide where she can't get me. She's really slow and I'm just as fast as Buffy. There's a lot of shouting, but it just fuels me on. It's fun to see how she screams.

I think she's a bit nuts. She keeps saying I'm naughty. I thought my name was Fluffy. I think my human is a bit confused. Crazy and confused. Not a good combination.

She takes good care of me and gives me nice food and treats. She also cleans up my potty messes. I let her know I messed by making some funny noises. Like ringing a bell for a servant. My servant comes and cleans up. Oh that's after she says some weird sounding words.

Time to go humans. I see something that's still in one piece. Let me go fix that.

Ruff-ruff!!!

Author: Fluffy
Job: Doing puppy stuff
Future plans: World domination
Likes: Biting feet, hands and destroying everything in sight
Dislikes: Baths and being picked up

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How To Protect Your Human

Woof! Hello guys! I'm back. Mommy's eyes are finally better. I was really scared you guys. She looked really creepy with those red eyes. I don't like when bad things happen to her. She's not just my food supplier, she's also my best friend and I feel the need to protect my Renza.

All doggies were bred to be natural protectors. It's in our DNA. The humans feed us, give us shelter, plays with us and love us. So it's natural that you would want to protect your human.

Not everything that comes close to your human is dangerous. Please don't go all crazy and jump and attack everything that moves. Here are some things to look out for.

1. If someone approaches your human with a really loud voice, let them know it's unacceptable by stepping inbetween them and your human. Growl a little so that they can back off and keep quiet.

2. If the person touches your human and they yell out "Ouch!". This is the perfect time to use your sharp teeth. They're not just made to chew food and rip apart toys. Go ahead and bite them. Who told them to lay their filthy hands on your human. You have my permission. Grrrr!

3. When new visitors come to your house, smell them first. If they smell 'wrong'...Attack! If they smell friendly then you can leave them alone. Maybe they have treats or a toy.

4. Warn your human by barking a special bark when there's visitors at the gate or door. My warning bark sounds like a howl. You guys know how to howl, right? We are part wolf after all. Arhoooooooooooooof!!

Dog sleeping
Sleeping on the job. I'm guilty of this too.
5. Stay close to your human. Lie infront of them with your back towards them or just sit or stand close. You never know what can happen with a world filled with crazy people. Be alert and lookout for 'wrong' humans and other things.

6. Don't fall for the "Here's a treat" from a stranger. They don't know you or what kind of snacks you like. What gives them the right to hand out treats anyway? If you really want the treat, look at your human first for approval.

7. When you go outside for walkies make sure you're always at your humans side. It's tempting to smell random things and chase dogs or other humans that's walking too close. Don't do it! If they don't look at you or come close to pet you then don't engage. Just ignore them.

8. If another doggy eyes your human and look at them the way you look at food, let the doggy know that your human is under your protection. Growl if they think your not serious. Grrrr!

How to protect you human
Example of extreme guarding
I hope this was helpful you guys. Our humans are important to our survival so we need to make sure nothing happens to them.

 I love my Renza but she's a bit of a weakling. Can't fight to save her life. You may think she can scream because she's a girl. Nope! That's not an option either. Weak voice too.

Luckily she has me and of course Fluffy to protect her. Don't be fooled by our cuteness. Big mistake! Fluffy has shown us she's quite vicious and will be a good protector. Already barking at strangers.

She barks when she destroys things too but that's a story for another day. Her needle sharp teeth will come in handy if we need to take on some creepy person. She's an attack first ask questions later type. Grrrr!!

I have a very smart little sister, but there's something a little off about her. I can't put my paw on it. She has found a way onto the couch even though she's too small to reach. She also knows how to get out of things, like through partition gates. It looks like she's good at problem solving.

Don't worry you guys. Renza figured out how she does it and closed all the Fluffy exit points that were apparently not obvious to us.

Mommy had to pretend to hide so that she can catch Fluffy in the act, because she waits until no one is watching. Vicious and sneaky. Not a good combination. We're okay for now, until she finds other ways.

Anyway, time to go you guys. I'll leave you to go and protect your human. Renza promised me a big bowl of puppy food. Don't judge! It's better than that junk they always feed me.

Woof! Woooooof!

Author: Buffy
Job: Guard dog, part-time blogger
Likes: Playing, eating and sleeping
Dislikes: Grooming and food thieves

Pic credit: Pexels free stock images that mommy edited.

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